On Finding True Friends

I didn’t have a lot of friends in middle school, high school, or even when I went to community college. Now, at Millikin University, I am finally making true friends. 

I've reflected on these new friendships.

It is comforting knowing that I can be myself around my new friend group, knowing they won't judge me after spending even a short amount of time getting to know who I am, my personality, and my hobbies.

It is comforting knowing that they aren’t going to speak negatively about me behind my back. Instead, they’re supportive and kind, welcoming me into conversations and activities.

It is comforting knowing I can rely on them, whether it's reaching out for advice, asking for help with schoolwork, or simply needing someone to talk to. They're just a text or a quick call away.

It is comforting knowing that these friendships are real; they are not temporary or superficial.

In the past, I tried to change myself in order to be liked. I tried too hard to fit in and be like others because I did not see that I had value and worth just as I was. I believed that being accepted meant hiding my true interests, hobbies, and personality traits that made me uniquely me. Now I understand that the right people appreciate those very things, and genuine friends will never ask me to compromise who I truly am. Finding true friends has helped me recognize my own worth, exactly as I am.

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Isaiah Montgomery, son of Believe & Be Brave founder Stacey Montgomery, is passionate about sharing his personal journey. He frequently contributes to The Believe & Be Brave Blog through his series, Walking My Path: Celebrating Small Wins.

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